Thursday, July 23, 2009
We're not planning on having a wedding registry for a few reasons. For one, we're not having a "real" wedding. Of course it's real, we are pledging our lives to each other, but we're not entertaining our crowd with vows or dancing. We're going to the courthouse with our crew in tow and then taking everyone out for dinner.
This may seem weird to you (our crowd of 30-40 going to the courthouse) but it's quite normal here. In fact, a civil ceremony is mandatory. You get a room all to yourself for signing the marriage certificate and you can invite your nearest and dearest to watch. The typical Argentine wedding is held the next day, with a religious ceremony and blow-out reception. But we felt weird about having a big event, especially since my parents aren't coming, and it would really just be a celebration for Guille's side.
Our US receptions don't really warrant a registry either, being that they're just small get-togethers. But the real reason that we're not registering is because we're not ready to settle down. I've always equated getting married with being settled. But that's not the case at all. I'm not ready to buy a house and fill it with all of the things want yet. In the past 9 years (gulp!) since I graduated high school, I have lived in 8 different cities in 4 different states and 3 countries. Seriously, I can't commit to a place. And I'm happy that I've found someone to spend my chaotic life with.
I can't tell you how relieved I felt when I sold most of the things I owned at a stoop sale before I left Brooklyn. I loved the things that I had, but I was also ready to let go of my juicer, IKEA furniture, survey of art books, etc. It feels good to pack a suitcase and take off. Some day I will be ready, but there's no use in schlepping around a Kitchen Aid mixer until then (especially since they're sold for the equivalent of an average month's salary here).
If I were to have a registry though, it would be filled with this:
Of course I want one.
Note cards with my new name :)